Today, it may look like infertility is a permanent road block preventing you from ever reaching your desired destination. It may seem as if every prayer you pray goes unanswered, God is silent, and all the news is bad. It may feel like no one cares, there is no cause for hope, and all is lost.
But that is an illusion. A false perception. A lie.
In Hebrew the name Satan translates “the deceiver.” In scripture, he is also called “the father of lies,” and it’s for a reason. He specializes in whispering disheartening words. Convincing you that every closed door is a sign of failure. Every difficulty a prelude to defeat.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Life in Christ does not mean immunity from difficulties, but it offers peace in difficulties. It doesn’t mean that victory is always visible, but it is always God’s plan. One day, you will look back and see the wisdom of God’s ‘no’ at each fork in the road that would have led you away from His best. You will see that His goodness led you to where you are now. And you will thank Him for every time He said, ‘I love you way too much to answer that prayer.’
But how do you get from Now to Then? To that moment when it’s clear that God is good and all is well?
First, realize that infertility is not happening to you, it’s happening for you. Whatever the Enemy may tempt you to believe, the truth is that God has a purpose for your infertility journey. There is a reason you are walking this path toward your future. God intends to strengthen your faith, to demonstrate His faithfulness, and to mature you into the steward He intends you to be for the child who is coming.
The Bible says that:
“’No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and this is their vindication from me,’ declares the LORD.”
Another translation concludes, “’…I’ll see to it that everything works out for the best,’ says the LORD.” That means, if you trust God, you don’t need to worry. In fact, you should thank Him for everything — even apparent trials and hardships. Why? Because what looks like opposition leads to opportunity. What seems like difficulty strengthens determination. What feels like a battle is actually a blessing.
Appearances are deceiving.
So where should you focus? On what you see? Think? Feel? Or, on what you know to be the truth from the God who keeps His promises?
Let God direct your steps. He knows what He is doing. Get in agreement with Him and nothing can stop your destiny – so long as you continue to step out in faith, rather than fear. So long as appearances don’t deceive you into thinking you’re already defeated, and get you to give up before you get to where God’s leading.
The key to seeing past the illusion of predestined failure to the blessing that awaits is to stay in faith. Tell God, “I may not understand this plan, and I may not like what I see or think or feel, but I will trust you. I will believe that the promise ‘all things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose’ is for me – and the child you have chosen to come into the life of this family.”
Pray those words as often as you need them. Put them on your bathroom mirror. Tape them to your dashboard. Tack them on your cubicle wall. Keep God’s promises in front of you, put the lies of the deceiver behind you, and walk confidently into the future God has planned for you.