There are moments – split seconds even – that can seem to last forever. When the nurse calls with the news you dread. When the tech stares silently at the ultrasound image, refusing to speak what you already fear. When the doctor delivers the baby at 18 weeks, and you know the truth before he says a word.
So many of the couples I’ve worked with have described the feeling of an unbearable moment that goes on and on…. It’s as if time stops. The past falls away. The future is unimaginable. There is only the moment and the realization that everything you’ve hoped for is gone.
Grief begins to form a tidal wave in the distance. But in the moment, there is nothing. No feeling. No understanding. No faith. No hope. No way to wrap your mind around this awful reality.
Where is God in this moment?
The Bible says He is with us.
What is this moment like for Him? 2 Peter says, “With the Lord, a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day.” I believe that means that God understands the agony of a moment that seems to go on forever. But it also means that time expands and collapses, stretches and compresses, with Him. In other words, time does not limit God in any way, nor what He can accomplish in a given moment.
We may be psychologically paralyzed, frozen in a split second that’s too unbearable for us to experience. But not God. He is fully present with us, providing comfort and strength for as long as this “moment” lasts. It may seem as if He has failed us. As if He has broken His promise to give us hope and a future. As if He has been so slow in keeping the promise that He is somehow too late. Or worse, as if He has abandoned us in our moment of need.
But that’s not true.
God is never defeated by our circumstances. He is never too late — to comfort us, to strengthen us, or to deliver joy into our lives. The problem is that we are unable to see past this moment. We cannot imagine that this season of suffering will ever end, and so we conclude… it won’t.
The Bible says, “The Lord is not slow in keeping His promise, as some understand slowness.” We don’t understand why we have to wait so long, or why God seems to be moving so slowly to fulfill His promise. We don’t understand His timing, His reasons or His plan. He has shared none of this with us.
So, we have to trust Him. And wait.
Thankfully, 2 Peter says, “He is patient….” with us, with our response to failure and loss, with our self-absorption in grief, with our confusion and our anger, with our depression and our fear, with our temporary loss of faith in His goodness and purposefulness. He is patient with all of it. And with all of us.
In the end, the suffering that seems to be lasting forever, will be over “like a day.” And the joy that comes with the child He has always planned for us — the soul He has already chosen to entrust to us — “will be like a thousand years.” We will see this journey from His perspective, and the moment of heartache will be a blink… just before life with our child began.
Hang in there.
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For more compassionate understanding and cause for hope, read Pregnant With Hope: Good News for Infertile Couples.
Pregnant with Hope 