I was taking a walk with a new friend recently when I mentioned that I write a blog for people struggling with infertlity. It’s hard to explain to my peers why I still write it — our own journey ended long ago, I no longer lead the Bible study, I’m not trying to sell books or raise my profile… and I’m getting white hair, for goodness sake!
I just feel called.
Periodically, I wonder, “Is it time to stop writing?” I’d been praying about that for a while and seeking a clear answer. I’d had several unexpected, unprompted and very encouraging affirmations, but honestly, I still wrestled with this question: “Does someone who’s this far removed from that particular journey need to keep writing?”
Then, I got this email:
I just ran across your blog today and I am so happy I did. I almost cried because I have been searching for months for something to help bring me back up. A lot of other bloggers have stopped writing as their lives get hectic once they have children. It’s just so heart-warming for me to scroll down to the bottom of the last post and see the time stamp be within this month and this year. I don’t know why I find it so comforting, but I do. I’m purchasing your book and diving into your blog. I’m so happy and so encouraged now.
I couldn’t ask for a clearer answer. Not only do I need to keep writing, but there’s the answer to “why?” Scripture puts it this way:
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” [2 Corinthians 1:3-4]
Reading blog posts about other infertile couple’s fears and failures won’t reduce Katie’s worry. Just like comparing notes in the doctor’s waiting room won’t reduce her stress. Yes, “misery loves company,” but her spirit is not encouraged by reading or hearing about other people’s suffering. The details of their grief don’t inspire hope.
Only those of us who have made the journey and experienced the incredible faithfulness and goodness of God can attest to it in ways that will resonate in the midst of Katie’s circumstances. We can comfort her with the same truth that comforted us. We can share our stories and bear witness. We can point out the path of peace, having taken it ourselves.
Katie’s right. Too often, infertile couples become new parents so busy with their long-awaited joy that they don’t think to offer a helping hand to those still making the journey. No judgment; it’s understandable, but it’s bittersweet for people like Katie who are still struggling and left wondering, “Why them, but not me?”
I’m honored to have been given the privilege of walking alongside Katie — and each of you as you encounter the living God in the midst of your infertility journey.
“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.” [Ephesians 3:16]
May His truth speak through me and resonate in your spirit, and may peace — however fleeting — be compelling evidence of His presence.
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3 responses to “So That We Can Comfort….”
I just have to comment too to say how happy I am that you have resumed writing! I found your blog a year or two ago – and it was so helpful to me. I had never read anything so incredibly hopeful and also so focused on God’s truth and his character and scripture. I was kind of sad to realize that you had stopped writing back in 2012, before I had even discovered your blog – but since it was new to me there was still lots for me to read and benefit from. Today I was looking through my bookmarks and remembered your blog. I can’t even tell you how encouraging it was to find some new posts! You have a wonderful ministry of comforting others in the same way that you have been comforted. You are right that it gives great hope and comfort to hear truth from someone who has walked this road – and is much farther along on the journey. I am not feeling very articulate tonight but I just wanted to say “Thankyou!” and please keep writing!
God continues to use your story to inspire and encourage others. Keep writing!
Hi Susan, Like Katie, I discovered your blog this year, about 3 years into our infertility struggle. I am so grateful that you continue to write and inspire hope in those of us who are still in the midst of infertility. I am 41 years old, and I don’t know how much longer I can keep going in our quest to have our own biological child. But I read your post and am reminded that God has a plan for all of us, and we need to keep putting one foot in front of the other and let him lead us. I don’t know where this will take us – a pregnancy, an adoption, or maybe lots of fur-kids. But your posts remind me that even though it sometimes seems like He forgot about us, God is good, He loves us, and He has a purpose for us. There have been days recently when I have been very low, and your recent blog posts have provided me with the strength and hope I have needed. They lift my spirit and provide important reminders of faith, hope and love.
I ordered your book last week and I look forward to new posts. I also have explored many of your older blog posts and find inspiration there too. There are a lot of us out there who have looked and have found nothing like the words you provide. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. God bless you and your family. Michelle