Category Archives: Speaking Up
The Best Defense…
It doesn’t happen often, but when someone willfully violates my boundaries and I am struggling to respond constructively (or just to hold my ground), it takes a heavy toll on me – and my body pays the price. I’ve learned … Continue reading
Filed under Battles, Peace, Perspective, Speaking Up
Sisters in the Struggle — Sharing Hope
It’s so easy to feel isolated and alone when you’re struggling through infertility. Somehow, it helps to know that other women (and men) are struggling, too. The community that’s built through sharing stories is invaluable — which is why I … Continue reading
Filed under Hope, Speaking Up
It’s a Blessing…
Once couples who’ve battled infertility reach the goal of parenthood – whether by conception or adoption – it’s tempting for retroactive amnesia to take hold. Who wants to remember the heartache of the journey? Why hold on to memories of loss, grief and suffering? After all, given the time, money and effort it took to become a family, why do anything but enjoy it? Because it’s not just about you. Continue reading
Filed under Blessings, Hope, Speaking Up
With Friends Like That….
I’ve been re-reading Job recently, and I’ve been struck by the many ways Job’s friends acted morally and spiritually superior – even though they were wrong. They were wrong about what was happening. They were wrong about why. They were … Continue reading
Filed under Bystanders, Loss, Speaking Up
Ten Years and Worth It: One Couple’s Story
Alesha and Josh were high school sweethearts. They married at 20 and conceived their first baby after 18 months of trying. They lost the baby ten weeks later. Very disappointed but not defeated, they spent the next two years trying … Continue reading
Filed under Control, Speaking Up
When Infertility & Ministry Collide: One Couple’s Story
Has anyone ever told you that the Bible is full of good advice? That it has all the answers? How did that make you feel? In my experience, infertile couples tend to feel patronized when someone sends them to the … Continue reading
Filed under Hope, Speaking Up
Teaching the Church to Help Us
Very often, couples who discover that one or both of them is infertile enter a self-imposed exile. Painfully aware of their “differentness,” they struggle to find solutions to their problem while protecting their privacy and newfound sense of vulnerability. When … Continue reading
Filed under Bystanders, Speaking Up
Turns Out, You Are Not Alone
You’re not alone. I discovered that truth in a whole new way when I went to Sitemeter yesterday. Sitemeter tells me where blog readers come from. Not who they are (don’t worry, your privacy’s completely protected), but where in the … Continue reading
Filed under Hope, Perspective, Speaking Up
The Story Most People Never Share
“Have you ever lost a pregnancy? How did you ever recover? Did you ever feel hope again?” Sadly, despite the frequency of miscarriages, there is virtually no public discussion about them. When you lose a baby, there is so much … Continue reading
Filed under Humility, Loss, Speaking Up
