Category Archives: Bystanders
“What if They Never Conceive?”
Yesterday, an aspiring grandfather contacted me to ask about groups in Oregon. He has already given a copy of Pregnant With Hope: Good News for Infertile Couples to his son and daughter-in-law, and also been reading the book himself. What … Continue reading
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What Moves the Heart of God?
What moves the heart of God and makes Him want to open a womb so that an infertile woman becomes a mother? Is it a mystery that cannot – and should not — be explored? Or does scripture suggest that … Continue reading
Filed under Battles, Bystanders, Control, Hope, Trust
With Friends Like That….
I’ve been re-reading Job recently, and I’ve been struck by the many ways Job’s friends acted morally and spiritually superior – even though they were wrong. They were wrong about what was happening. They were wrong about why. They were … Continue reading
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Secondary Infertility: One Man’s Story
I know a man who experienced secondary infertility years ago. He and his wife decided that one child was not a whole family, and that – for them – natural conception was the only acceptable road to parenthood. They tried … Continue reading
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Here’s What Infertile Couples Want & Need
This is a rerun of my all-time most read and recirculated post. Share it with someone who has no idea how to help you…. ======================================================= What can you say to the people around you who want to love you through … Continue reading
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Teaching the Church to Help Us
Very often, couples who discover that one or both of them is infertile enter a self-imposed exile. Painfully aware of their “differentness,” they struggle to find solutions to their problem while protecting their privacy and newfound sense of vulnerability. When … Continue reading
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The Value of Boundaries
What if someone offered to give you a gift to help you make your way through infertility? Would you be interested? If they offered to share the secret to restoring a fragile relationship, protecting a vulnerable heart, reducing stress and … Continue reading
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Hurtful Words from Those We Trust
For infertile couples, part of the frustration – and a major source of heartache – is other people’s cluelessness. It may be rooted in ignorance, inexperience, a lack of social skills, or pure self-absorption. Whatever the reason, the words of … Continue reading
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To the Ones Who Can Change Things….
Have you ever sat through a church service wondering why nothing you’re hearing speaks to your infertility journey? Or struggled through a baptism wondering if you’ll be able to hold back the tears? Have you ever left a couples’ Sunday … Continue reading
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